Introduction

In the exploration of transgender identities and personal journeys, one of the most enduring questions is whether, once people have transitioned, they choose to conceal their past. This subject arises not merely in academic or clinical inquiries but also in the everyday lives of those who navigate their gender identity. As a transgender individual myself, I will explore the reasons behind this behavior and how it might manifest in modern times.

Early Hiding and Transition

Before I knew much about transgender identities, I often felt questioned about whether I was a boy or a girl. Long before my personal journey began, I learned to hide. Individuals who knew I was biologically female would often dismiss my internal feelings and identities, telling me to follow societal norms without understanding my internal experiences. In these early years, I would refuse to disclose my true gender, even when called 'she/her', because I didn't want to argue with those who dismissed me. I continued to avoid pronouns as much as possible.

The Role of Online Platforms

Since the online world provided a space where I could feel less alone and more accepted, I regularly share my stories there. However, in the physical world, my journey remained relatively quiet. I only disclosed my transgender status when it was necessary or when I felt safe. Majority of the time, it was not anyone’s concern. Living a life often centered around the same goals and dreams as anyone else without the unwanted label or judgment.

Sharing in the Modern World

In today's era, where LGBTQ rights and identities are gaining more recognition, my privacy is still a high concern. When I'm dating, discussing my experiences with doctors, or confiding in family members, it's not only appropriate but also necessary to share my journey. Additionally, I have joined a group through the VA, which includes many transgender individuals, where I can freely share and support. However, telling strangers about my past is usually limited to answering questions or when in a conversation it's relevant.

Addressing Misconceptions

It's important to address the misconceptions surrounding transgender identity. Many individuals believe that transgender people exaggerate or fabricate their transitions. However, reality is much different. Most transgender men and women have no need to perform extreme surgical procedures. The idea of flashing is far from the truth, as most people maintain their physicality throughout their journey of self-discovery. The reality is that most transgender individuals seeking medical assistance do so because they genuinely believe it improves their quality of life, and the procedures they undergo are carefully considered and medically necessary.

Conclusion

Transgender individuals, whether hiding or sharing, are on a unique journey towards self-discovery and authenticity. My personal experience showcases the range of choices individuals make based on their comfort levels, societal norms, and personal safety. Despite the challenges, the journey towards self-acceptance is crucial, and the support of friends, family, and online communities plays a significant role in this process.