Regrets Unfulfilled: The Value of Grandparents and Early Therapy
Growing up, I faced numerous challenges, particularly one that significantly impacted my sleep: the economic troubles of my youth. My favorite way to drift off was a simple, yet profound, method: physically embracing my grandfather's arm. Yes, like a child, I used him as both a sleeping companion and a means to soothe both of us. However, this was more than just a nightly ritual; it was a unique form of companionship.
Despite the closeness, our conversations were sparse. Perhaps my arrogance at the time prevented me from engaging with him more deeply, but with hindsight, I realize that such conversations could have enriched my life immeasurably. Traveling across the country, he surely held invaluable knowledge and experiences worth sharing. Unfortunately, during a time when my grandfather's health was declining due to the pandemic (COVID), we did not have enough time to strengthen our bond. This regret lingers, for I now understand the profound impact of loneliness that older individuals often experience after retirement. Regretfully, I had missed my chance to get to know him more deeply and cherish the memories we could have shared.
On another front, my mental health journey has been tumultuous since childhood, marked by periods of clinical depression and PTSD. Although I initially sought solace in physical exhaustion, my hesitancy to seek therapy has been a lifelong regret. Over the years, encountering therapy through sponsorship and a friend's recommendation, I still did not take it up. This decision, driven by a sense of guilt and fear, has cost me dearly. Now, after 11 sessions, I am beginning to appreciate the benefits of therapy, and I believe it has the potential to significantly impact my well-being in the long run. It is a testament to my resilience and commitment to improving myself.
My experience underscores the value of mental health therapy, a tool that can build a new perspective, provide a safe space, and foster personal growth. I strongly recommend therapy to everyone, even those who feel they do not need it, as it is a vital aspect of maintaining mental health and emotional stability. Additionally, I urge everyone to spend quality time with the elderly and their families. As we mature, we realize the importance of these relationships.
In reflection, there is a profound sense of belonging that older individuals, and indeed everyone, cherishes. Cultivating these connections, early on in life, can prevent the regret of not cherishing the moments we had with loved ones.
Peace Out!