How to Cope with Domestic Abuse During Isolation

The unprecedented times of lockdown and self-isolation pose unique challenges, especially for those experiencing domestic abuse. It is crucial to understand that staying silent is not a solution. There are several steps you can take to protect yourself and seek help.

Reporting Domestic Abuse

The only way to ensure safety is to report the abuse. Many people hesitate, thinking they cannot make a difference or fear the consequences. However, every reported incident can lead to action. If you are in immediate danger, dial 911; otherwise, contact a crisis center or a trusted local authority. In the U.S., calling 911 or reaching out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE can be life-saving.

Understanding ‘Cabin Fever’

Being in a tight space with an abuser for extended periods can exacerbate tension. Many have termed this tension as 'cabin fever.' Years ago, I experienced a similar situation with a close friend during a wilderness cabin trip. The first visit saw us barely tolerating each other, and a visit by another friend significantly improved the situation, leading to the end of our stay. This isolation is similar but with less escape options. It's important to recognize the signs of abuser behavior and seek alternatives to improve your mental and physical well-being.

Tips and Steps to Stay Safe

Here are some steps you can take to protect yourself:

Communication: Send text messages or emails to let someone know you need help. Keeping a line of communication open is crucial. Plan Your Exit: If possible, make a plan for leaving as soon as the lockdown ends. If immediate evacuation is not feasible, start by taking small steps, such as gathering belongings and necessary documents. Seek Support: Reach out to support groups, helplines, and trusted friends or family members. Consider talking to your doctor about safety plans if moving in with a family member is necessary. Stay Informed: Stay up to date on the status of women's crisis homes. Many continue to operate, adhering to safety protocols.

Support Networks and Online Resources

Joining online support groups can also provide crucial emotional support. Many abuse victims find comfort in these communities, even when physical contact is limited.(Utilize platforms like Reddit, National Partnership, and Samaritans)

Remember, you are not alone. The community and professional resources are there to help, and taking the first step is a courageous act that can lead to a safer future.