Introduction
Living with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or attention deficit disorder (ADD) presents a unique set of challenges and strengths. As someone who has befriended individuals with ADHD/ADD, I have gained valuable insights into both the struggles and the remarkable qualities these individuals possess. This article explores the lessons I have learned from befriending those with ADHD/ADD.
Leveraging Creativity and Open-Mindedness
I have come to understand that ADHD/ADD brains are highly creative and open-minded. When presented with something intriguing, individuals with ADHD/ADD can find ways to make it work. This trait doesn't come without its challenges, but it also opens up new horizons for innovation and problem-solving. For instance, my friend with ADD, although often seen as overly energetic, can bring new ideas and perspectives to the table. They can be silly, but this quality often leads to hilarious and memorable moments.
Understanding Medication and Performance
Another significant lesson I've learned is that taking ADHD medication is not merely a hindrance; it is often a tool that helps level the playing field. Medication can help individuals perform to their best abilities, allowing them to achieve goals that might otherwise be challenging. This mindset shift has helped me appreciate the importance of these medications and the role they play in enabling individuals to function effectively.
The Value of Patience and Tolerance
Being friends with someone who has ADD can be challenging, especially if you don’t have it yourself. My friend with ADD is an awesome, caring, and sometimes silly kid. Their energy, while often seen as hyperactive, is a testament to their creativity and vitality. Patience and tolerance are essential when interacting with individuals with ADD. They are seeking someone who can appreciate their unique qualities without becoming overwhelmed by them. Adding to these qualities, people with ADD often have a range of talents, including being smart, funny, and having the ability to multi-task.
Adapting to Realities and Rethinking Perceptions
My friend with ADD sometimes struggles with communication, often forgetting to message me or getting absorbed in things. This taught me that forgetfulness and disinterest in communication are not necessarily personal issues but rather a reflection of how their brain functions. These challenges have helped me develop a deeper understanding of ADHD and the misperceptions that often surround it, such as the idea that ADHD equates to lesser intelligence. My friend is incredibly smart and knowledgeable.
Embracing Diverse Learning Paths
ADHD can lead individuals to drop out of school, which might be the best option for them given their unique needs and circumstances. While it is important to recognize the limitations of the traditional school system, it is equally crucial to understand that everyone has a different path to learning and success. Dropping out does not reflect a lack of intelligence or potential. Instead, it can be a necessary step for finding the right educational fit.
Grasping Intense Interests and Realities of ADHD
People with ADHD often have intense interests, which can be both fascinating and enlightening. My friend's specific interests, such as their deep knowledge in a particular area, have helped me appreciate the depth and specificity of their interests. It is an eye-opening experience to see how someone with ADHD can delve into a subject with unparalleled detail and passion.
Acceptance and Understanding
A final lesson I have learned is about acceptance and understanding. Not all behaviors and actions of a friend with ADHD are because of their condition. Some of their differences stem from their personality and interests, but understanding that some behaviors are due to ADHD can help in developing a more supportive and tolerant friendship. This has helped me be more accepting of different ways of doing things and less judgmental about them.
Friendship with those living with ADHD/ADD is a journey of growth and learning. It challenges us to reevaluate our perceptions, be patient, and embrace the unique strengths that come with these conditions. By doing so, we not only enrich our friendships but also contribute to a more inclusive and understanding society.