Does Nikolas Cruz’s Story Change Your Perspective on Adopting Children?
The tragic events at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, where Nikolas Cruz carried out a shooting massacre, have brought about intense debates regarding the risks associated with adopting children. Critics often point to the fact that Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris, also involved in the Columbine High School massacre, weren't adopted. This leads some to question whether having biological children who might potentially grow up to be violent introduces an even higher risk. However, exploring the complexities of mental health and after-care support paints a clearer picture of the issues.
Adoption: A Lifeline for Many Children
No. Children in need, whether adopted or biological, deserve love and a stable home. Nikolas Cruz’s story underscores the critical importance of after adoption support. Being adopted at the age of two, Nikolas experienced the loss of his birth family and then, eventually, his adopted family. The absence of intensive therapy and support during his formative years was a significant factor in his later behavior. While his story serves as a stark reminder, it also highlights the need for continuous and comprehensive support for adopted children.
When my adopted son exhibited violent and uncontrollable behavior, police were called to our home 13 times. The 14th call resulted in his arrest and put him on probation. This experience led to additional resources and support for dealing with his reactive attachment disorder. Our persistence paid off, and we eventually received the help we needed. I wish every child with an attachment disorder, particularly adopted children, could receive the same level of support and love to become loving members of society. Nikolas Cruz’s story has made me want to advocate for foster and adopted children, ensuring they don't face their many losses alone.
The Complexity of Severe Mental Illness
While Nikolas Cruz’s actions were undoubtedly disturbing, it's important to understand that his behavior was influenced by a severe psychotic illness. Having been reported by the sheriff immediately, these events were widely covered in the news. People often mistakenly place the blame on adoption or the lack thereof, but the reality is more nuanced.
Severe mental illnesses can be 'inherited,' but the term 'inheritance' in this context doesn't mean the same as for physical traits. Genetic patterns—or 'misspellings' in genes—can cause these illnesses. Some children may inherit the same or similar genetic patterns from their parents, while others may develop similar patterns without any genetic inheritance.
Many people who develop these severe mental illnesses do not 'get it from their parents.' In fact, up to 89% of schizophrenics might not have a close relative with the disorder. While some families may have a higher prevalence of mental illnesses, this doesn't mean it's because of inherited genes. Instead, random genetic mutations can occur within an individual without any genetic inheritance from a parent.
These random genetic mutations are 'normal' and arise naturally, without anyone 'doing anything wrong.' Some parents might have a minor genetic mutation that is exacerbated in their child, leading to a more severe mental illness. Alternatively, a child might have a more severe manifestation of a genetic mutation that their parent never experienced.
The Role of Treatment
The lack of appropriate treatment was the critical factor in Nikolas Cruz's actions, not the mental illness itself. While the severity of mental illness can vary, treatment can significantly improve outcomes. Many individuals with severe mental illnesses are nice people who receive the necessary treatment and support to manage their conditions.
For example, imagine adopting a child who may develop a severe mental illness. If they do, you would ensure they receive the treatment they need. Xavier Amadour's book, 'I’m Not Sick and I Don’t Need Help,' offers insights into dealing with non-compliance in treatment. Adopting a child with a mental illness wouldn't be a cause for hesitation; rather, it would prompt a commitment to their ongoing care and well-being.
Addressing the Root Causes
The root cause of such tragedies is untreated mental illness. To prevent future shootings and other violent incidents, we need a united effort to educate ourselves about mental health, advocate for comprehensive mental health services, and ensure appropriate interventions for those who are a danger to themselves or others. This includes working with law enforcement to properly handle individuals in crisis and prevent the dissemination of high-powered weapons to those who might misuse them.
Until we address the real issue—untreated mental illness—and take decisive action to support those in need, we will continue to face the tragedy of individuals like Nikolas Cruz. It is a call to action, not a reason to fear or avoid adoption. With proper care and support, we can ensure a brighter, safer future for all children.