Can an Unpopular Girl Become Popular by the End of High School?
It depends on what you mean by unpopular: is she just an ordinary, average girl, or is she shy, or simply not liked among others?
I would say that for after high school, yes, she could at least try to become popular by showcasing her personal talents and hobbies. Maybe even posting interesting things on her social media. However, the girl even attempting to become popular is a matter of personal choice.
Now, if you want to tackle the challenge of becoming popular at school, here are a few tips that might just work:
Strategy 1: Present Yourself Well
Yes, you can’t beat the Plastics at their game. But you can develop a thick skin. Start by presenting yourself well. You don’t have to have the latest gear, but make sure what you wear is clean and suits your personality, not someone else’s. Keep your hair tidy and apply minimal makeup at school, and no perfume.
Strategy 2: Be Helpful and Kind to Everyone
Why limit help and kindness to only those you are trying to impress or try to win over? Be helpful and kind to everyone, regardless of who they are. Say hello or good morning to people, take the time to have a chat, and remember what they say—when you see them again, ask about something they mentioned. Perhaps a sick cat, a horrible weekend job, a zombie brother, or a vampire mother, whatever it is.
At first, you might be accused of being goody-goody, but the sincerity of your actions will eventually prove that you are not. The accusation will pass.
Strategy 3: Do Your Work Well
If you are clever, don’t be afraid to show your ability. If you are not, try hard and don’t make a show of it, but do not be afraid to ask teachers for help. Showing your work ethic and intelligence can help you stand out.
Strategy 4: Join Activities and Be Inclusive
Join various activities like drama, dance, choir, or a band if you like. Play sports, and if you enjoy chess or something geeky, don’t be afraid to participate. However, avoid limiting your circle of friends. If you are good at something, get really good at it.
Sit with someone who looks lonely during lunch. This can be male, female, or someone from another grade. You don’t have to be a superhero, but don’t exclude people from your circle. The people you help will speak well of you. When your success comes, don’t abandon them.
The Key: Self-Evaluation and Investigation
The final piece of advice is for the girl to figure out for herself why she is unpopular and alter that problem if she can. Understanding the root cause can be the first step towards making positive changes.