Breaking Down Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): How Public and Private Outbursts Occur

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be an incredibly challenging experience, particularly when it comes to managing emotional outbursts and the control over these expressions. It's a complex condition, and individuals with BPD, often referred to as psychologically borderline or pwbpd, may exhibit different levels of emotional volatility depending on their environment and the people around them.

The Extent of Emotional Volatility in BPD

Yes, absolutely, I have observed my BPD girlfriend demonstrate an intense level of rage, leading to complete loss of control with potential acts of violence and self-harm (Metaphors included to describe the emotions). However, it's crucial to understand that the pwbpd can make choices, even if they make bad choices more often than not. This highlights the duality in managing emotions in individuals with BPD.

My experience has shown that, while emotional outbursts are common, there is also a significant awareness of the environment and the people involved. For instance, when law enforcement arrives, the level of composure and tranquility can be remarkable. This behavior is not indicative of a lack of control per se, but rather a strategic choice to manage emotions in public versus private settings.

Personal Experience and Emotional Management

It's important to note that emotional outbursts are not as easily controllable or hidden as one might think. In my personal life, I find it difficult to go off on people. Anxiety often reaches a high point, and the feeling of losing control is unbearable. Over time, I have developed strategies to manage these emotions, such as walking away from situations where my anxiety is escalating.

Parenting adds another layer of complexity. With two young children, the stress of maintaining composure is even more pronounced. If a situation is getting too heated, I often choose to walk away, rather than escalate the situation. It's a delicate balance and an ongoing process of emotional regulation.

The Role of Attachment and Safety in Emotional Expression

My tendency to express emotions often depends on the attachment and safety I feel with a person. For instance, if a stranger is in the room during an interaction, I am more likely to control my emotions and avoid confrontation. Speaking openly in unfamiliar settings can be severely anxiety-inducing for me, so I opt to leave rather than risk an emotional outburst.

In familiar and safe settings, however, my emotional state can be more directly expressed. This is not a conscious choice to hide my feelings so much as an unconscious response to a sense of security and trust. Consequently, if I am deeply attached to someone and we are alone, I am less likely to close off emotionally and more inclined to express my feelings genuinely.

Strategies for Emotional Management in BPD

For individuals with BPD, understanding and practicing emotional regulation strategies can be highly beneficial. Some effective methods include:

Walking away: Similar to my approach with my children, stepping away from a situation can provide the needed time and space to regain composure. Deep breathing: Taking slow, deep breaths can help mitigate the onset of an emotional tantrum. Engaging in a calming activity: Whether it's a hobby, a walk, or a moment of reflection, finding a calming activity can help regulate intense emotions. Seeking support: Talking to a therapist or trusted friend can provide an alternative safe space to express emotions.

Conclusion

While Borderline Personality Disorder can manifest in volatile emotions, it also involves conscious choices and strategies for managing these emotions. Understanding the dynamics between public and private outbursts, and the role of safety and attachment, can provide individuals with BPD a greater sense of control and facilitate healthier emotional regulation.

It is important for individuals with BPD, as well as their loved ones, to recognize the complexity of this condition and the steps that can be taken to manage emotions effectively. With the right support and strategies, it is possible to navigate the challenges of BPD with greater ease and understanding.