Autism and Asperger’s: Thriving Academically Yet Struggling Socially
It is entirely possible for someone with autism and Asperger’s to excel academically but struggle socially. I can personally attest to this—through my own experiences, I've found a balance where academic success comes with social challenges, particularly in emotional intelligence and social navigation.
Academic Success Despite Social Challenges
Individuals with autism often navigate the academic world with grace and determination. The environment can present challenges, such as the need to catch up on missed work, which is a significant hurdle. For me, it has been an ongoing battle to keep up with the academic demands of school, a challenge compounded by my social difficulties. Even so, academic life has presented opportunities for growth and achievement.
Evolution of Social Skills
It is a widely acknowledged truth that individuals on the autism spectrum, including those with Asperger’s, often face significant social and interpersonal challenges. The unwritten social rules can be complex and counterintuitive, requiring a great deal of rational decoding. While some individuals can navigate these rules more easily, others require more effort and may find it overwhelming.
Asperger’s and School Functionality
Asperger’s is characterized by functionality that can be surprising. Some individuals with Asperger’s can become so highly functional that the disability is almost undetectable. However, underneath this success, there may still be struggles, such as excessive shyness, which can make social interactions difficult.
Personal Journey: A Thriving Academic Life
Academically, I have thrived. I participated in multiple honors and advanced classes in high school, took the maximum number of courses available, and was captain of our school's Speech Team. Despite a challenge in math, where I received grades of C, I maintained a high GPA with mostly A's in other subjects. In college, I pursued a BS in chemistry with a minor in criminal justice, graduating with 165 credit hours, an honors diploma, and an undergraduate thesis. I also engaged in various extracurricular activities, including competing in my university's Speech and Debate team, marching with the marching band, working at the library, volunteering, teaching dance, and serving as the secretary and president of my university's LGBTQ group.
Social Challenges and Emotional Intelligence
While academically successful, the social landscape has been another story. My interactions with neurotypical individuals have been a source of significant struggle. My social and emotional skills did not develop as naturally, resulting in years of bullying and feelings of isolation. It often felt as though I was in a glass box, observing the world but unable to fully engage. However, with practice and the passage of time, I have made progress. Even now, forming friendships and navigating dating relationships remains challenging, highlighting the ongoing nature of these social challenges.
Conclusion
Autism and Asperger’s present a complex interplay of success and struggle. While academic excellence is often within reach, the journey towards social competency can be fraught with difficulties. It is essential to recognize the unique experiences and challenges faced by individuals on the autism spectrum, and to support them in developing the skills necessary for both academic and social success.